Job hunting is like dating
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It was in the mid-eighties, when I was trying to better my career situation by finding a new job, that I first noticed the parallels between dating and job-hunting.
Here’s how job hunting and dating are basically the same thing: 1. or worse yet, sitting by the proverbial phone and getting no feedback at all.
Career coaches can drone on about resumes, networking and interviewing techniques.
Very seldom do you meet anyone who claims to enjoy the process for itself (and when you do, they’re generally such wildly extroverted people that they’re fairly rare specimens of humanity in the first place).
In this way, job hunting is a lot like dating – a thing you have to do, in order to get achieve your goal of a dream job or relationship, and not necessarily something you’d do for fun. In fact, by considering the many ways in which these not-so-fun processes resemble one another, you can figure out ways to maximize the experience to get to the dream-job part that much sooner. Because so much of the process involves hearing the words, “thanks, but no thanks” …
Cut to the next day, you send a follow up email and look forward to discussing the next steps. The recruiter wants to keep your interest but doesn’t want to lead you on too much because they’re looking at multiple candidates.
In dating terms, I’m seeing other people but waiting for the right guy/girl to settle down with.
You get prepared, your suit dry-cleaned, your hair perfectly cut — after all, bringing your “A” game is a must — because first impressions are key and the stakes are high.
You’re praying just to get a response from a recruiter. You eventually snag your first phone interview (aka: coffee date) and that goes well.
You’re feeling good, you try to schedule the next phone interview with fingers crossed hoping you actually get to meet in person (the big date), but this is when the charade begins.
Today is the BIG day, you couldn’t sleep last night and your whole day is dedicated to the next couple of hours.
You step into their office (remember a firm handshake and smile) and the battle begins.
Search for job hunting is like dating:
The guy/girl is interviewing candidates for the role of wife or husband.